"Look Before You Leap"
The Unexpected Consequences of Divorce
by Michele Weiner-Davis
"When people divorce they have visions of better lives. Old problems will vanish, they hope, as new dreams take their place. These dreams usually include meeting candidates for more intimate relationships, more compatible sexual partners, improved financial status, more freedom to pursue personal goals and new opportunities to make independent choices. These dreams frequently do not materialize, creating a whole new set of problems. Even when desired changes do occur, they are not without unintended consequences. "
People are happier when they have realistic expectations about divorce.