As one of the members of the divorce team, I too have been through a divorce. It can be an unsettling time for most of us. I remember feeling as if I would come out of the divorce as a "bag lady". Of course, I did not and it seems very silly now. However, at the time, it felt very real. My divorce was 15 years ago and I remember feeling like a sheep being sent out to the wolves. It doesn't have to be that way. Surround yourself with knowledgeable and supportive people. Your mother or friend may be a great listener but knowledge is what will help you get what you want. When your thoughts go to the dark side of the divorce, think about what you want your life to look like; not what you may be afraid of it looking like. Then talk to people that can help you achieve your goals.
Remember knowledge is power!